hope?

[BPDstinks]

Hello, friends!  After 3+ long years of sporadic texts, I came home last night & there was a garbage bag of stuff....a bag of wrapped toys, with a note from my daughter, pwBPD, (she has not seen her 3 nieces, for 3 years) "these are from Christmases, thanks for giving me space", well...come to find out (this makes me sad, found out from my mother, pwBPD is moving to a different apartment (again, I am ALWAYS happy she has SOMEone, however, I feel like I am losing every tiny link I had to her (I helped her find, move, etc. to the apartment she is moving FROM), I am just going to give the gifts to the kids at Christmas; I am HOPING this is a step in the right direction (?) I sent her a very brief text acknowledging the gifts (as always, SOOO many steps, just to say, HELLO, I love and miss you)....I hope this is the "one"

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

Hi BPDstinks
Just to clarify - were the wrapped presents ones DD was returning to you or ones she is giving?

[BPDstinks]

Hi!  well,,,,I am unsure, my mom knows she was moving, so....I think it was the intention that I give them TO the kids; it was very sad, some of them were (age "stamped" for much younger kids, (one was for a 2 year old....that child is now almost 5) (it just so happens their mom is pregnant again, so....I am just saving it!) the other gifts I put with the Xmas gifts I save up; I sent a "blanket" text to my daughter "I got the gifts, how thoughtful, I will make sure they are "doled" out...hope you are well heart emoji (i try not to overdo) (i never heard back) since THAT time, we had a baby shower for the mom i mentioned and she invited pwBPD saying "we would like a fresh start and would love to see you" no response, the oldest grandchild has been mentioned pwBPD alot lately (she was practically raised by pwBPD) we explained that pwBPD has some medical issues; asked if she could call pwBPD, she did, no response....I guess that was a LONG answer to a tiny question!  and I answered my hope question (thank YOU for asking!)

[Sancho]

Thanks BPDstinks.

I find I am pondering the 'thanks for giving me space'.

I find that a really interesting statement to unpack.

[BPDstinks]

hi!  well....one of our last "conversations" stemmed from her boss at work calling me (she did this often) to tell me pwBPD was having a very bad day (boss was very involved (pwBPD was very lucky, as her employer made many allowances) and strongly suggested I reach out to pwBPD; i called & said "how is it going, want to do dinner" or something like that" which caused a TIRADE of I was stalking her and she would get a restraining order; followed by a text pwBPD was going to go to dialetical (can't think of the exact word) and needed "space" and would "reach out" when she was ready (that was 2 years ago) (what was the unpack reference?"