>My husband suddenly left

[Cobi]

My husband and I have recently been getting along better than before. We’ve gone on dates and increased our sex life. Literally, overnight, he sent a text message to my daughters and myself and he blamed my daughters for making him feel terrible for years. When they begged him not to leave, he said I was actually the problem. Still over text. When I showed up at our shared office, he started to refuse to talk to me. He told me I’m manipulative and he’s been miserable our entire marriage. He told me I have made him feel bad about himself for years and he won’t allow that any more. He has also left the Jewish orthodox community 6 years ago when we first got together. Recently he has been trying to reconnect with them &leaving me out. Idk what’s happening! Help!!!!!

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[Notwendy]

Cobi-
That is quite a shock, especially when you thought things were going well. All the posters here are sharing their own experiences with the person with BPD who they are connected to, and what they have learned. It would be helpful if you could add some more information to help understand your situation. Please don't post personal or identifying info in order to maintain your privacy.

Does your H have BPD? Not all posters here have family members who are diagnosed but suspect it from the behaviors they are dealing with. For some, their family member is diagnosed. What are some of the behaviors you have been concerned about?

You mentioned your H left the Orthodox Jewish community when you got together with him. What is your religious/cultural background? Did he leave the community so he could be with you? Has he given you any idea he may miss it or wish to return? Do you have religious conflicts- either between two religions or two denominations? If so, how have the two of you worked this out?

Hopefully knowing this information will help posters reply and share similar experiences.