I am confused

[outsider609]

girlfriedn making me cry Becuz she keeps cheeting on me or bulying me And makifg me sad Then she cuddles and luvs and tell  me Everthing I wana hear an d this hapens Over and oebr agan. I am Confused. 

[ForeverDad]

We are here and we are listening.  As peer support, we have "been there, done that" too.  Please feel free to browse, ponder, share and ask.

Most of us never learned of a diagnosis, especially since persons with BPD traits (pwBPD) often resist going to counselors or therapists.  So the best we can do is conclude for ourselves what we are dealing with based upon what we see and experience of the behavior and patterns.

Cheating is not uncommon in these dysfunctional relationships.  If fidelity is important to you - as it often is in normal relationships - then of course you need to ponder whether there is a realistic future with you and your girlfriend.

But first you would do well to educate yourself about this acting-out personality disorder, not just what it is but also how you can communicate better and set more practical boundaries to handle the extreme ups and downs.

Ask your questions and we'll do our best to answer them or point you in the right direction for answers.

Of course, we are peer support and not professionals.  You are also welcome to seek out counselors and therapists in your local area for in-person sessions.