Inheritance & Smirks

[TelHill]

I'm trying to see if no response, as I did, is the best one. I posted about an inheritance issue last year. My uBPD brother and sociopathic cousin stole a small cottage with a bit of land from me. It was supposed to be split 3 ways to include me. It's in a foreign country. My dad has been too old to travel for a few years to oversee everything. I didn't go either.

Dad doesn't like what those two did but is an enabler to my disordered brother and is afraid of our cousin (his nephew). He will not confront them. Dad wants me to see a lawyer to include me. I was there last year and interviewed attorneys. dBPD mom got sick and passed away late last year. I put it on the back burner.

I started pursuing this again recently. My brother lives with my dad f/t and I'm there 5 days a week.  I received some local legal documents  which dad signed and had notarized for the inheritance. The last step was getting an Apostille seal. I left this document in my backpack to take to our state capitol for this seal in a few days.

I looked for these documents in my backpack a day later and they were gone. I found the empty envelope with the receipts from documents purchased in another part of the house. I believe my brother took them. They had personal identification on them which someone could use to steal my identity. My dad knew immediately what happened. He looked stunned.

I asked my brother if he had seen them. He smirked and said no. He had that look on his face like you always lose things. He had the same look on his face when I asked about the other things he had stolen from me.

Am pretty sure dad told him about this so we could work together and get along. I'm itching to say something to my sibling but I know it will make things worse for me and dad. Or should I say something?

I bought the documents again to get what I need. I have a lock for backpack now and will never let it out of my sight.

[ForeverDad]

We've heard stories like this...

• the spouse who used a crowbar to get into the locked trunk
• the spouse who broke into the locked briefcase
• the spouse who went to the other's office and told the secretary "it's okay to wait in his office" then ransacked it

Sadly, we cannot trust disordered people to behave normally.  Burned once, twice shy.  However, better to avoid being burned in the first place.  Unfortunately, we don't realize the extent the other will go to until it happens.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

[Notwendy]

Sometimes the best response is to just take action, as you did. Trying to get into a conversation with your brother over this is likely to just become a circular argument and attention to him.

You know what kind of person you are dealing with. Taking legal action to attain what belongs to you, as you are doing, is the better course (IMHO)

[Pook075]

I would wonder if this didn't just pass from civil to criminal.  Stealing documents is still stealing, and if those documents were to prove you owned 1/3 of the cottage, then I could see that classified as grand theft.

Personally, I'd talk to the police and explain the situation.  No need to confront your brother directly.  Let him smirk at the police as they bring him in for questioning.  Maybe he can smirk at someone in the jail cell as well, that would be cute.