Hello. This is my first time in the group. I have a spouse with BPD, we are now separated, and the journey has been exhausting. It is great to have a space to interact with others in a similar situation. The best part of learning about BPD and having resources such as this site is learning that I am not a bad person, and that feeling that way often is a reaction to her disorder.
Hey Tim, welcome. Sorry to have met you under these circumstances. When you say separated, is this a legal separation through the courts while you two decide you want a divorce or not? And yes, I'm assuming you're not a bad person, no one is perfect and I know I said some really mean things after years of constant abuse. They truly convince you that you're the worst person on earth, and when you believe that it starts to ruin your life. Any questions for us?
