My BPD partner said they just don't love me the same way

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I want to start out by admitting I am not perfect and have made mistakes in the relationship. We have been broken up since December, and she has been living with my parents since then. She is diagnosed and is somewhat aware she needs help.

I have been stuck in this push-pull for a while where we might hook up, and then she gets mad at me afterward, or she is very flirty with me and then pulls it back. The whole time she will just say, "I don't want it," or, "I just don't feel the same way," when I ask why we can't try again.

The one time she did leave, she called me and said she loved me, and then walked it right back when she came back. There is a lot more that I won't have time to write today.

Pretty much, what can I do? I understand the "easier" path would be to have her leave and go no contact, but I would like to give it one more try because if she leaves, she is going to end up in another terrible situation. I know most of you guys are probably going to say to run and get out of it, but I am open to all positive and negative suggestions. I really want to try to make it work.

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