Hi awkoct,
I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm glad that you decided to join us, I can understand the anxiety associated with moving in together and finding it hard to support each other when you're both going through a low. I hope that it doesn't sound like i'm deflecting the question, it's hard to say what is going to happen. I think have anxiety and depression too so I can relate with how difficult it can be when i'm not functioning at 100%.
I think it's important to do self care to function better and even when you're functioning at 100%, sometimes when we feel better we may neglect self care because we feel better. Congrats on moving in together, I admire both of you because you have awareness and you're not scared of reaching out when there's a need. It helps to talk to people just like, we can offer you support and guidance.
Every situation is unique, there may be specifics when and if you're both feeling low, but we're here for you for all situations, anxiety is normal, everyone has anxiety, it may be caused because we're prepping for a major test, we might to deliver a public speech at school or at work, I can see how moving in together would cause anxiety, it's normal

PS. You'll find the lessons to the right side of the board.