Hi, it is so good to hear you are getting help. I think it is normal to have urges that are against the rules, or law after a long, abusive relationship. Perhaps stealing from your mom was your way to win a fight, or show you were in control? No judgement at all. You are trying to make yourself better. What makes you think your parents possibly have BPD?
First post here. I'm currently dealing with two parents who show signs of BPD and both think the other has it. It's very confusing and I don't know what the truth is most of the time. I'm seeking help because I've started to show really troubling traits. I've stolen about $350 from my mom, and I have uncontrollable spending, disordered eating, and I've been having stealing urges my whole life. I also have PTSD unrelated to my parents due to an abusive ex-partner and a s*xual ass*ult.