When you finally realise

[Depression = 72% of members]

They really are living pathetic lives, repeating the same script.  Idealise, devalue, cheating and lying, set-up replacement, discard and destroy, then using Social Media as to show that they are really happy and as a passive aggressive weapon, then smearing you to friends family and replacements, while trying to recycle or stalk you.

After yet another failed relationship they descend into even deeper depression, substance abuse and embarrassing impulsive behaviour. Losing even more friends as they go. 

Stay NC and watch them unravel, it's sad how desperate they become to project and shift the shame and blame.  Never go back!

[Replacement99]

They really are living pathetic lives, repeating the same script.  Idealise, devalue, cheating and lying, set-up replacement, discard and destroy, then using Social Media as to show that they are really happy and as a passive aggressive weapon, then smearing you to friends family and replacements, while trying to recycle or stalk you.

After yet another failed relationship they descend into even deeper depression, substance abuse and embarrassing impulsive behaviour. Losing even more friends as they go. 

Stay NC and watch them unravel, it's sad how desperate they become to project and shift the shame and blame.  Never go back!

[roberto516]

In a way I guess I'm lucky. My ex was more along the lines of what some would call a "petulent borderline". She was much more passive aggressive with me, and really put on a good face in public. After the discard she didn't smear me or threaten to. (Actually that was me). She just disappeared as if I never existed. She was very defiant, unpredictable, impulsive etc during the relationship. And as far as I know she hasn't replaced me yet. I mean she has replaced me with hobbies 24/7 etc. but I think she might have finally learned that she should be single if she wants to work on herself. Which if she does I'd be really happy for her. We will see how long that lasts. I wouldn't bet on it though.

 

[Idsrvt2]

I'm seeing some of that now... first he walked out in front of my car... there was no need to do so... .he walks with his head down otherwise acting like he's doing the walk of shame... .poor him his stalker won't let him deliver her mail... .

Then I've been feeling after checking his social media ... .but I went back eight years and it's the same pattern same type of thing

How pathetic that he updated his profile two days after I did mine ... after eight years of his remaining the same,

No doubt he's watching me ... .how could he stop.   And it's just not me it's everyone in this neighborhood
After all he found my eBay handle something that's very difficult to do.

After days of me crying , I'm pulling myself back up and realizing he has a very long road ahead before he rejoins the living
I prob will be contacted at some point... .but he won't recycle me as I won't let it.