Leaving Therapy

[daverisk]

My SO has been back home for just over a month now.  She goes to therapy tomorrow and that will be her last session.  I KNOW she isn't ready to be done yet, trying to find ways to encourage her to continue.  We start couples counseling on Monday, hopefully that will provide an avenue to encourage her to continue counseling.

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[livednlearned]

Have you noticed any positive changes for her since she's been in T?

"I notice that T gave you some helpful skills that seemed to make you more _______ and _______. Maybe it would help to continue T, so you can continue feeling that way. What are your thoughts?"

[daverisk]

Live,

Some improvements, but I've also seen some of those behaviors which were problematic for us before T.  I REALLY hope she continues T when we complete our joint counseling.

[Alayne]

Out of curiosity, why is she ending therapy?  Was it a set schedule or because she feels that she's done with the program?

I have zero suggestions. I'm asking more because my husband was in therapy twenty years ago, won't go back, feels that part is behind him. (He's not diagnosed BPD; this is just my suspicion.)  I would love for him to go real, non-couples therapy.  I'm always interested to hear what others are going through and how they and their SO's are handling it.

I can add that my BPD spouse complains about marriage counselling when he's in a rage and has threatened to quit.  Hasn't yet, though.  Even then, the best thing I ever did was go to one session by myself while he was out of town.  I needed help, too.