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My husband has BPD.  He keeps telling me I wouldn't treat him the way I do if he had cancer.  Probably true -- completely different set of criteria.  But how should I respond to this?  I don't believe it's a fair comparison, but I don't want to negate what he's saying.  

[witsender]

My husband has BPD.  He keeps telling me I wouldn't treat him the way I do if he had cancer.  Probably true -- completely different set of criteria.  But how should I respond to this?  I don't believe it's a fair comparison, but I don't want to negate what he's saying.  

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[Mutt]

Hi witsender,

He keeps telling me I wouldn't treat him the way I do if he had cancer.

There might be some truth in that, BPD is also a persecution complex where the person believes that their circumstances are caused externally by others, a pwBPD are also highly sensitive to rejection, perceived or real. It could be that his thoughts on how he's being treated are being exaggerate by his BPD symptoms.

How do you treat each other in general?