It has occured to me that my husband of 46 years has BPD. I am feeling many emotions at the moment. Mainly sadness for me, for the life I could have had, all the time that was wasted... .walking on eggshells the entire time. Is this normal? I feel like I am going through a grieving process.
I imagine being together and not knowing for that long would be hard. But, I have to give you credit, it must've taken a lot of strength and courage to be there during everything. But, as the saying goes, better late than never? Now that you know, start the process of learning about BPD and the stragedies to attempt to ease the rage moments. Get a book from the library, read many threads on this group. You are not alone, not by a long shot. I've been so thankful for finding this place cause it has given me a place to talk to others which are going to very similar situations and we can all share different things that seems to work or not work. I've learned that the SET method words better than going to straight validation. But read up on both methods, cause with knowledge is power, and the power to take back your life, and the love of your life.
