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« on: August 29, 2017, 08:31:18 PM »

I'm having a rough time today. I really badly want to call her. The more I read about BPD the sadder it makes me feel for her. I love her and just want her to know that even though she is with my replacement.  I feel so lost in this and don't know how to move forward. I'm tying my damndest but there are days like today that I just want to call.
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« Reply #1 on: August 29, 2017, 09:21:42 PM »

Were you together long? How long since the break up? Think about it long I would advice, there may be nothing good there, just more heartache... .
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« Reply #2 on: August 29, 2017, 09:43:22 PM »

Hi PaticAttack,

Welcome

It's suggested on an article on the site here to detach yourself emotionally when you're reading about BPD, I can relate with the sadness thinking about our owBPD when reading medical books. Our pwBPD can also trigger feelings of guilt because of their dependencies on us and others.

I think that you did the right thing by reaching out for support. A suggestion would be to try to change the tempo when you have these feelings, go to the gym and work out, go to church and volunteer, call a friend and if they're interested in going out for a meal or a movie.

Do you have hobbies?
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« Reply #3 on: August 29, 2017, 10:49:16 PM »

Were you together long? How long since the break up? Think about it long I would advice, there may be nothing good there, just more heartache... .

We were together for about about 4 months, broken up for 3, NC 2. I know it seems short but wanted to marry her, I thought she was my soul mate. Im finding out that's what a lot of non's feel. The break up came out of nowhere, I was told that it wasnt fair for her to love me when I couldnt love myself.  Last time I talked to her, she seemed like a different person.  It was terrible.  Here is this person that I fell in love with totally emotionless to me.  Yes, I do need to think long about it.  I know thats how she will still sound.  I also dont want to seem desperate.  This is tough!
 
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« Reply #4 on: August 29, 2017, 11:01:11 PM »

I love her and just want her to know that even though she is with my replacement.

Anyone know why the topic changed to this?
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