Pending divorce, what to expect

[Depression = 72% of members]

After a relationship of 32 years, marriage of 27 years, it's finally time to stop mainting the sickness and start my own recovery. I'm half believing it's a level playing field, the changed history, the gas lighting and that I'm the one who is mentally unstable. I need constant reminders from the outside, as I think I have a poor memory concerning offenses and am very forgiving. To a faulty. Looking for advice from anyone who has gone before me .

[Chirnside]

After a relationship of 32 years, marriage of 27 years, it's finally time to stop mainting the sickness and start my own recovery. I'm half believing it's a level playing field, the changed history, the gas lighting and that I'm the one who is mentally unstable. I need constant reminders from the outside, as I think I have a poor memory concerning offenses and am very forgiving. To a faulty. Looking for advice from anyone who has gone before me .

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Chirnside, Welcome!  Many of us, including me, have been down this path before you, so you are not alone.  Are you separated?  Fill us in, when you can.  What makes you suspect that your SO has BPD?  No, I doubt that you are the one who is mentally unstable!  Feel free to ask any particular questions.

LuckyJim

[Mutt]

Hi Chirnside,  



I'd like to join Lucky Jim and welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm glad that you decided to join us, you're not alone.My exuBPDw blame shifted unto me and it was an emotional barrage for a period of time, it was really intense. This site was huge help for support and I got support from a P and T too.

Have you filed for divorce or are you thinking about it?

I'll give you the link to the legal board, they'll be able to help you with legal questions and you can read the posts there and get a general idea of what the difficulty curve is.

Family Law, Divorce, and Custody