living with a wife that has BPD

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iam married to a beautifull women, who has been thru a lot in her life,she was raped as a kid bye her brothers and there friends, and had the same thing happen in her first marriage,she is unable to put the past behind her,and she has relapses into ptsd , because of the traumatic experience, this make it hard to live with as she has mood swings , and does not understand that her behaviour is not right, that is because of BPD , it is a life long challenge living with someone like this,but lfe is about caring ,and taking things one day at a time

[LivingLife]

iam married to a beautifull women, who has been thru a lot in her life,she was raped as a kid bye her brothers and there friends, and had the same thing happen in her first marriage,she is unable to put the past behind her,and she has relapses into ptsd , because of the traumatic experience, this make it hard to live with as she has mood swings , and does not understand that her behaviour is not right, that is because of BPD , it is a life long challenge living with someone like this,but lfe is about caring ,and taking things one day at a time

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[pearlsw]

Hi LivingLife,

This sounds terribly painful! Has she had therapy or does she now see a therapist to help her?

How are you coping? How do you manage with the mood swings? How often are they happening? Do you notice what triggers them?

take care, pearlsw.

[Radcliff]

Hello LivingLife,

Let me join pearlsw in welcoming you to the boards.  This is a good community, and you can find a lot of support here, along with learning about ways to cope with living with someone with BPD to make both of your lives better.  Take a look at the links to the right of the screen to start learning.

Can you tell us more about your situation?  How long have you been married?

WW