My wife’s BPD ups and downs

[BBird]

My wife is has undiagnosed BPD. The therapist I was seeing strongly suspects my wife has BPD from my descriptions of her behavior. She has had these behaviors since I met her 17 years ago. We’ve been married for 12 years and had our daughter 4 years ago. My daughter is sensitive like me and is beginning to show signs of stress from my wife’s outbursts. I don’t know where to turn to get help for both me and my daughter. Has anyone else been in this situation?

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[qmagnumq]

Hi BBird,
I have a similar history.  Been married 17 years and have noticed BPD symptoms over the years.  It wasn't until a few years ago I started digging to find answers.  I found this board and reading through posts here really helped a lot.  I have just come back to the board to look for some pointers to deal with BPD outbursts. 
My son has noticed more and more that there is something not right with her.  Keep reading this board for tips and suggestions for now.  Hopefully there will be a post that will point you in the right direction.

Cheers

[Tattered Heart]

Hi BBird,

I'm sorry that you are experiencing difficulty in your relationship and that your daughter is being affected. Could you share a little more about what has been going on or is there a specific issue that keeps coming up in your relationship?