I’m so confused. I replay everything and it still doesn’t make any sense

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

So I make distance and limit the time me and my BPDbf have together b/c it’s been taking a huge toll on me. Today he randomly hits me up and says hey what r u doing? Blah blah blah and we should meet up and do something. I agree and tell him I’ll meet him after the gym. He get on the train and says “come up with something for us to do look something up” so I say we can go catch a movie. He fine with it and say ok.  The he says don’t keep me waiting at the train station in the cold like that last time please.  I said ok tell me when u r there and tell me once u pass this certain town. Every time I go get him at the train station he chooses to leave the station and go wait out in the cold where the taxi park and it only suppose to be used as a drive thru area. And he won’t tell me he’s there or where he’s at on the train. So I’ve learn to just go the and beat the train. Anyway on the way there we have friendly chat and laugh in the car. We get to the parking garage we leave our coats in the car walk threw the garage to go upstairs all while he’s still speaking to me friendly then once we take the elevator up to the floor where the movie theater is he changes. AS SOON AS WE STEP OFF THE ELEVATOR IT WAS A DIFFERENT PERSON.  we decide to eat first because he’s very hungry. We went to about 6 restaurants in the mall before he decide to pick BWW. In the restaurant I try to get him to lighten up and he has a nasty horrible attitude and sucking his teeth and responding with one word answers. Then I finally said “yo wth is wrong with u speak should we just sit here in quiet and look down like we’re strangers waiting on a bus” “ r u angry “ r u ok “what’s wrong what changed?”  The he says “ I don’t get mad not anymore after what I’ve been through”. So I stop and just sit in the quietness. Then he has a look on his face of “what did I do I just destroy another moment for us “and feel a little guilty.  He tries to ask me little questions to bring the mood back but then I was very cautious and confused as to what happened once again.  I AM SOO CONFUSED CAN ANYBODY MAKE SENSE OF THIS. I can’t take anymore of this behavior. When I’m with him and he destroys the moment and mood I feel so down. When I’m away from him and we just face chat or talk on the phone I feel like I. Can handle him better and my vibe isn’t ruined. I was able to get meyself to look and feel better. I’m a very joking and playful back type person but I can’t do it with him because there so many triggers and I know it I break up with him he will not move on even though he has broken up with me many times.  He begs for me back. The longest I held him off was four month and then I would get angry text and calls saying “ u can’t stop me from seeing u” and who r u with now when can I c u or ur always so busy. I just really hate being around depressed moody ppl and now look at me I’m trapped with one how ironic .

[Mrb87]

So I make distance and limit the time me and my BPDbf have together b/c it’s been taking a huge toll on me. Today he randomly hits me up and says hey what r u doing? Blah blah blah and we should meet up and do something. I agree and tell him I’ll meet him after the gym. He get on the train and says “come up with something for us to do look something up” so I say we can go catch a movie. He fine with it and say ok.  The he says don’t keep me waiting at the train station in the cold like that last time please.  I said ok tell me when u r there and tell me once u pass this certain town. Every time I go get him at the train station he chooses to leave the station and go wait out in the cold where the taxi park and it only suppose to be used as a drive thru area. And he won’t tell me he’s there or where he’s at on the train. So I’ve learn to just go the and beat the train. Anyway on the way there we have friendly chat and laugh in the car. We get to the parking garage we leave our coats in the car walk threw the garage to go upstairs all while he’s still speaking to me friendly then once we take the elevator up to the floor where the movie theater is he changes. AS SOON AS WE STEP OFF THE ELEVATOR IT WAS A DIFFERENT PERSON.  we decide to eat first because he’s very hungry. We went to about 6 restaurants in the mall before he decide to pick BWW. In the restaurant I try to get him to lighten up and he has a nasty horrible attitude and sucking his teeth and responding with one word answers. Then I finally said “yo wth is wrong with u speak should we just sit here in quiet and look down like we’re strangers waiting on a bus” “ r u angry “ r u ok “what’s wrong what changed?”  The he says “ I don’t get mad not anymore after what I’ve been through”. So I stop and just sit in the quietness. Then he has a look on his face of “what did I do I just destroy another moment for us “and feel a little guilty.  He tries to ask me little questions to bring the mood back but then I was very cautious and confused as to what happened once again.  I AM SOO CONFUSED CAN ANYBODY MAKE SENSE OF THIS. I can’t take anymore of this behavior. When I’m with him and he destroys the moment and mood I feel so down. When I’m away from him and we just face chat or talk on the phone I feel like I. Can handle him better and my vibe isn’t ruined. I was able to get meyself to look and feel better. I’m a very joking and playful back type person but I can’t do it with him because there so many triggers and I know it I break up with him he will not move on even though he has broken up with me many times.  He begs for me back. The longest I held him off was four month and then I would get angry text and calls saying “ u can’t stop me from seeing u” and who r u with now when can I c u or ur always so busy. I just really hate being around depressed moody ppl and now look at me I’m trapped with one how ironic .

[SlyQQ]

The slightest facial twitch is often misread ( badly ) if you overact happy - all the time - when you are face to face it will last a little longer.

google BPD facial recognition

[Greencane]

The slightest facial twitch is often misread ( badly ) if you overact happy - all the time - when you are face to face it will last a little longer.

google BPD facial recognition

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4579484/

This is fascinating. So totally makes sense.

[Mrb87]

So I got him to tell me what was bothering him that day. When we were at the kiosk to select the movie, the movie I want to see was playing too soon. (We ended up seeing it that same time anyway walking into it late because he was mad and wanted to get back at me threw it that way). Since the movie I wanted to watch was playing too soon. I picked another movie that started a hour later.  The movie was pitch perfect 3. When I selected that movie he goes "u said u hate that movie" I say " me I said I hate that movie? I like that movie. Pitch perfect was mad funny" he say " I remember last time when were picking movies u said it was stupid and wack and you've seen it before " I respond with " I never seen pitch perfect 3. I don't how I could say this the last movie i seen was with u and that was jumanji. I may have picked jumanji over pitch perfect but I don't hate it. " then said in a regular way idk it wasn't me. I did give him a strange look like weird is this coming from. But I took the situation very lightly and didn't think about the incident again. But right after that when the attitude came in I guess. That ruined the entire day for us and it wasn't even a fight or argument