Hi QBert,
Would you say it is hard for her because you are basically able to get along with the mutual friends but she is not able to do so? Have you validated her feelings about how hard it is for her to get along with others? Do you think it would be better to just keep a separate set of friends of your own or do you think there is any possibility to have mutual friends?
What does she mean by "you taking over" the friendships? Do you have an example?
take care, pearl.
Thank you for the response, pearl.
In this particular example we have a mutual friend who was pushing many of her boundaries. It wasn't until just two days ago that I understood the extent of the boundary pushing problem!
Once I understood the problem I validated it and we've agreed to create space between us and this friend. It sucks because he's a really nice guy otherwise and we both enjoy hanging with him, but because of issues of him not respecting her boundaries -- repeatedly, we both made the decision that space from him was needed.