One of the final communications before she blocked me from everything ..again

[dumpsterdog]

This is the actual email I sent her, trying one last time. Then a few days later she locked me out and called the police, because I told her she was being rude. We haven't seen each other since.

Maybe this will just help someone else see that they are not crazy.  I now trust the "sound of my own shoes walking away".

I have met some nice women, and I'm going to start dating. I have finally gotten the courage to move on.

Any comments welcome.

thanks,.
dumpsterdog

The thing that really just mystifies me... is how you can draw peop[le into your life... .and then suddenly discard them with no warning, rhyme or reason... .and just focus your attention to your dogs and pretend you havent devestated another persons self esteem... .and it seems to have no effect on you at all... .you just go your merry way like nothing bothers you at all... .while leaving someone who loved you with all there heart laying in the emotional desert starving for attention... .but you just dont care... .as long as you got what you wanted from them at the time... .not fair... .not fair at all... .how many time have i given you my all ... .only to be tossed aside again as soon as we start to build some sort of bond... .all i can say is that it hurts enought to make me want to die... .serioulsy... .everybody else in my life treats me with dignity and respect and thinks a im a good person... but you only dwell on my faluts and pick apart my every thought and action and just dismantle my very being at every opportunity... .as usual... as i always come to think... .why... .why doesnt she just let me love her and appreciate all the good things we could be for each other... .she lets me start to give her what she thinks she wants... .then changes the rules and pushes me away... .just doesnt make any sense.
it is truly a tragedy... .we should be helping each other through life... side by side... .but you just absolutely wont allow it to ever get too good... .because then you would have to admit that someone actually does love you and wants to be with you... .and you would have to admit that YOU CAN ACTUALLY TRUST SOMEONE... .buts thats not going to happen because in all honesty... .YOU DONT WANT TO TRUST., OR YOU WOULD AT LEAST TRY... .im just devastated... .dont even know what to say other than i love you still and miss you... .and wish you could open youu r heart and eyes and see that... .it hurst so much " VIXEN "... .and beleive me... .the best thing for me to do is just cut you out of my life... .but i dont want to do that... .id rather endure some pain and try to somehow prove my love for you... .but i guess that will never happen... .just so sad... .so sad... .

CAN WE PLEASE QUIT PLAYING GAMES,  AND JUST GET ON WITH LIFE AS PARTNERS AND BE HAPPY AND TRUSTING AND NORMAL... ?

[SlyQQ]

not going to happen

 

[Skip]

Its been a month since she said " i think t best not to talk "... but i called on saturday , and she did answer the phone... which is good i guess... .i asked her about her dogs, she talked about herself, a little , like 5 minutes, and then i just told her i hoped she was doing well, and politely excused myself .
She sounded ok... .not overly sweet or overly hostile... .so i guess im trying to figure out the next move..if i call again soon, she may run, if i dont she may feel further abandoned...
advice.?

I may have gotrne off the phone too quickly... i called her about 15 minutes before i had an appointment, and i had to tell her i have to go into this appointment at 5 till... .but i did say " I'll try to call you again in a few days:"

and she said ok... .

Hey DD,

So last week you called her, she finally answered, you talked briefly, you ask if you could call again, she said OK.

Is that right?

So then did you send her the email you just posted?  Was this to encourage her to try the relationship again?

What happened? Did the police call you?

Skip

[Mutt]

Hi dumpsterdog,

my life... .but i dont want to do that... .id rather endure some pain and try to somehow prove my love for you... .

The profile that you articulate is that if a person that causes you a world of pain in your life. She’s the only one in your circle of family and friends that doesn’t value you for you,  I know that that may be hard to hear but my questions are what’s your limit? Why do you measure self worth with her dysfunctional and maladaptive behaviours?

[dumpsterdog]

I did not send her the email recenlty... .that email was sent three months ago, before the split... i was just sharing what  happened just before the split... .we talked briefly last night... .she seems sad and lonely and sorry she pushed people away and said she is lonely... .i listened, told her i understood, and that i would call again in a few days... .and that i was her for her, but only if she decided that she loved me and wanted me to be the man in her life, and that if she truly thinks its best for her to begin a romantic relationship with some one else, then i was good with that as well... .because she is the only one who can decided whats going to make her happy... .she sounded a bit defeated and i felt solid on my stance of i need to be the only man in you rlife. or ... not AT ALL.

[Skip]

If you are trying to rekindle the relationship, I wouldn't be posting on the detaching board. Try Bettering and Saving.

That email that you sent her was taken so badly, she called the cops. It was not a good way to reconnect.

Make sense?