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« on: July 29, 2018, 02:44:56 PM »

you were never really here
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« Reply #1 on: July 31, 2018, 04:25:10 PM »

I can relate to the jelly-bean diet,

Wondering what your thoughts are JNChell,

good movie thanks for sharing.

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« Reply #2 on: July 31, 2018, 09:00:50 PM »

Hey, Cromwell. I tried to post a link and description of the movie. For whatever reason, it didn’t happen.

I’m always intrigued by shows that try to showcase PD’s. This guy clearly suffered from PTSD, and a mother that was BPD, or more than likely schizophrenic. He was obligated to her, and chose a noble, but disturbing profession. I believe that pedophiles deserve a hammer to the head. They’re too far gone to even consider.

It was an interesting movie.
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« Reply #3 on: August 01, 2018, 04:31:36 PM »

Yea it was good JNChell, I watched it looking for BPD but couldnt find it except a few flags from the mother like you say.

I did wonder how much of living with his mother in that way caused his ptsd to aggravate, whether it was a component to him choosing to project some inner-turmoil regarding her towards being brutal in his choice of 'work'.

Likewise I wonder how is life will have scope for change after the mother was murdered, noble profession which seems to be popular in films these days, mystiqued to a great extent - yet the film showed how a mentally-toughened guy could still become flaky if enough pressure is mounted on. We all have our limitations and the film choice reminded me of a post not on here I think, but someone returning from a tour in either Iraq/Afghanistan and remarked that the struggle with his BPD partner was worse than what he experienced in a war zone.
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« Reply #4 on: August 01, 2018, 09:41:26 PM »

I did wonder how much of living with his mother in that way caused his ptsd to aggravate, whether it was a component to him choosing to project some inner-turmoil regarding her towards being brutal in his choice of 'work'.

I imagine that it stirred his PTSD quite a bit. I imagine it was hard to try to balance caring for his mother, his profession and his own turmoil in a bundle.

I took his profession as being repentance. That maybe he felt responsible for the death of children in an already hostile environment during his tour. That he was trying to take control of the shame he felt for that. Who knows. It’s just a movie.

As a musician (I don’t perform out anymore), I always clung to the saying that “art is left to interpretation”.

the struggle with his BPD partner was worse than what he experienced in a war zone.

I believe this. We don’t expect love, trust, loyalty empathy, honesty, warmth, compassion, sympathy and so on in a war zone the same way that it’s desired at home. Home should be a safe haven. When the home is uprooted, there’s nothing worse.
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