Wife not giving me access to son

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

My ex claimed I was bruising our youngest son. She took him to the pediatrician. She then sent an email to me telling me that the pediatrician called me to warn me about my behavior. I never received a call. She made it up to feel better herself. Later we went through a custody eval and she brought it up. The evaluator said she was going to call the practice. My ex didn't have the number but I had it in my cellphone. The pediatrician said that she would not have called me to give a warning but would have followed the law which is that she would have had to report it to the authorities. Ex insisted that she was told by the pediatrician that she called me to give me a warning. Eventually the courts and the evaluators figured ex out and I was given more time with our boys. It took several years to get to that point but I was not completely excluded from seeing our boys. My ex left with our boys and I didn't see them for a week and had no idea where they were. I can't imagine a longer time period. Stay focused on what is best for your son. The legal system is slow and you have to persevere.

[david]

My ex claimed I was bruising our youngest son. She took him to the pediatrician. She then sent an email to me telling me that the pediatrician called me to warn me about my behavior. I never received a call. She made it up to feel better herself. Later we went through a custody eval and she brought it up. The evaluator said she was going to call the practice. My ex didn't have the number but I had it in my cellphone. The pediatrician said that she would not have called me to give a warning but would have followed the law which is that she would have had to report it to the authorities. Ex insisted that she was told by the pediatrician that she called me to give me a warning. Eventually the courts and the evaluators figured ex out and I was given more time with our boys. It took several years to get to that point but I was not completely excluded from seeing our boys. My ex left with our boys and I didn't see them for a week and had no idea where they were. I can't imagine a longer time period. Stay focused on what is best for your son. The legal system is slow and you have to persevere.

[Harri]

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