I guess the general message I am getting is that I need to figure out what I want and to move towards that. The 'sub message' would be to work on communication techniques.
NOO!
Simply NOO!
The road you are driving down right now
will lead to a head on crash. It won't be pretty. If nothing else. Put on the brakes an pull over.
Right now you (and she) are able to swerve and each of you is scared and
wanting the other one to turn around.
What happens when both of you decide NOT to swerve?
Observe traffic for a while and verify you are in the correct lane of traffic... for the direction you want to go.
FF