I did feel this way. Something trivial, or a situation that simply needed an adult conversation to reach an agreement, would turn into a circular argument. ... .But I understand why now.
Interesting sharing
JNChell. Yes those circular arguments and how a non can somehow be coerced into argument--those are always a challenge, even with the skills I think.
I want to be clear that I didn’t call her names.
Ok.
I can turn to the grounding exercises that I’m learning through my psychologist and implementing the tools that are available here.
Mmm yes. It's good you use these things to avoid arguments. Me too, I still use some of the things I learned from here--even with healthy people in daily life. They help to avoid arguments and get resolutions without skirting the issue.
It’s been fruitful.
Good to hear.
I wish that I had never thrown those labels at S3’s mother.
I too wish I didn't jump in to JADE back then. It made things much more difficult to get through. That's just it though sometimes I think. The behaviours are supposed to make it difficult to see the big picture--subconsciously at that time. You and I are both wiser now and do things more effective for us than attacking or giving armchair diagnoses. That's a win for us.
S3 ... .Now he’s got it. A calm and collected place that he can spend almost half of his time.
Superb. Peace is such a gift and when we can provide that safe nurturing environment for a young person to learn--that's a gift given. Good on you.