Part 2: Will my BPD wife come chasing me?

[Sufferingsoul34]

Yes I know it’s tough to understand. I am supporting some things like the car she’s driving and or phones but that’s about it. She was asking for rent money if I come back but then I asked her again for her mums bank details and she didn’t provid them. She was like just pay double next month. She had been messaging me a lot asking if I want to stay in England or America. I said the plans to go to America once my dad gets the all clear from his cancer. She messaged 2 nights ago saying that she hopes we can go back to how we were before we were married as that was amazing. So I told her yesterday that I agree with that and we need to focus on what made us happy back then and that she also needs to be 100% sure that it’s the marriage with me she wants or the single life. She replied today saying she’s not sure. Then another message stating that what if it takes her a long time to decide what she wants? I don’t know what to respond to this so any advice on what you think she may be thinking would be great  thank you so much!

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I don’t know what to respond to this so any advice on what you think she may be thinking would be great  thank you so much!

i dont have advice so much as i would encourage you to work out your answer to her question here.

what if it does take her a long time to decide what she wants?

are you okay with that? are you okay with things as they are?