Odd connection to the Declaration of Independence

[SamwizeGamgee]

This might sound odd, as I wrestle with the if, why, how, and when for divorcing uBPDw; but I keep thinking of the American Declaration of Independence.
www.ushistory.org/declaration/document/

That's kind of where I am.  Phrases like: when it becomes necessary to dissolve the political bands,... .impelled to separation, ... .equal and inalienable rights, ... .securing safety and happiness, ... .long train of abuses... .
Admittedly, the King of England sounds like much more of a tyrant than my wife.  However, I'm reminded that some truths are self-evident.  I have a right to my feelings, my values, my boundaries, and at some point, I have to separate to be myself.
Interesting analogy I'm into now.
Just thought I'd share something that is a good boost to us survivors.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Sam,

Yes, you have a right to your feelings, values and boundaries. 

The Declaration also provides that we are entitled to "Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness," concepts that can often get obscured in a BPD r/s.

Some truths are self-evident.  Suggest you stand up for your truth.

LuckyJim

[SamwizeGamgee]

I'm an easy sell for early American patriotism!
I am just impressed that the Declaration of Independence, of all things, is hitting a chord with my abuse recovery efforts
If I was a history teacher, this would be billable hours ;)

[Lucky Jim]

Let's not forget the Civil War, when Admiral David Farragut ordered, "Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!"

I like this quote in the context of BPD because, needles to say, detaching involves a lot of torpedoes, i.e., potential reasons to turn back.

LJ

[SamwizeGamgee]

As I think about it, it's one thing to declare independence -- and a whole other to declare war. 
I am a little scared of the war to follow.  But, damn those torpedoes, it's coming to war.

[AskingWhy]

Samwize, it's interesting to see you not the connection of freedom and respect in a relationship to the Declaration.

People deserve civility among themselves and not tyranny in a relationship.

pwBPD live their lives of "it's all about me."  It's sad, but they are essentially toddlers or teen in way they conduct themselves.  We need strong boundaries to make sure they don't trample the nons in their lives.

[Cat Familiar]

After years of living under oppression, it's easy to forget our rights. And once you get that taste of freedom back, you will never want to surrender it again.

[formflier]

  you will never want to surrender it again.

That's a big part of my thinking.  There are several boundaries I have "erected" in my life to "contain" BPD crazy... .and I simply can't imagine ever lowing those boundaries and "letting crazy in  again".

Good thread... .good analogy. 

FF

[Lucky Jim]

After years of living under oppression, it's easy to forget our rights. And once you get that taste of freedom back, you will never want to surrender it again.

Nicely said, Cat Familiar.  I'm with you, AskingWhy, that tyranny has no place in a respectful relationship.  I was once a doormat; now I say, "Don't Tread on Me"!

LJ