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Skills we were never taught
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A 3 Minute Lesson
on Ending Conflict
Communication Skills-
Don't Be Invalidating
Listen with Empathy -
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Setting Boundaries
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« on: April 20, 2019, 10:26:07 PM »

I always have a hard time finding where to write a post...categorie challanged I guess..I have posted many times on here...the latest...After a long silence, and numerous dissapointting contacts, I finally had a brief phone conversation with Ex BPD, She was fine as long as she was the topic, but as soon as I started talking about what I've been up to, she became short and distant and ended the call...since she at least entertained a conversation, I texted a few pleasantries over the next few days...all of which she ignored, except at one point she did say " happy birthday, I hope you have a nice day "...totally ignoring any of the content of my texts...like she gave me the pleasure of a response, but didnt engage any of the the topics I had texted...weird...and she did mention on the phone her " girlfriend " , which I can take one of two ways..so once again, even though there has been contact, it is really not " gageable "...so I'm once again lost in the mud of noncommital muck
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« Reply #1 on: April 21, 2019, 08:07:05 PM »

Hi dumpsterdog.  It's been a while.
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  You are in the right place if you are considering getting back together or even having contact with her again.  I am having a hard time telling what you want from this recent communication.  What are you hoping for?  What do you want?  What do you think will happen if you get back with her?  What have either one of you done to learn new ways to communicate and interact with each other?  Do you think things will be different if you try again?

Sorry for all the questions. 

BTW, Happy Belated Birthday!  celebrate1
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« Reply #2 on: April 22, 2019, 03:08:57 PM »

is she a bad listener?
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« Reply #3 on: April 26, 2019, 05:47:00 PM »

She is very good at long term silent treatment while she checks out any other options that pop up...
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