It is so hard to deal with

[Longterm]

What I mean is if I wanted to use your car I would not ask you in a hostile way would I? For example, "gimme the keys now" wouldn't work would it? But "hey how are you YOKE? Ya know I just can't stop thinking about how wonderful you are and I need a ride into town and you always treated me so well and i know you are always there for me". That might work right?

They like to keep contact in case things don't work out for them, like a back up. It keeps you connected and prevents you from moving on, it's is utterly selfish and self centred, my ex did it a lot and stopped me seeing my boys because I would not engage in conversation, I refused to play the game.
 She may not initiate contact whilst idealizing somebody else, her thoughts processes will be solely on him. You will never understand them or what they are thinking because it's nonsensical and this is the very reason why you need to try and move the focus to yourself. During this period how much have you thought about yourself and what you want? Probably very little besides wanting the pain to stop, this has to change YOKE.

[I Am Redeemed]

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