Hello blackorchid,
Been following your threads,
You can’t control him, you can’t change his mind or fix him, if he has moved out, the best thing you can do is to go about your business, leave “the door open” for him, but don’t be a doormat.
I understand you live in Turkey, that’s soemthing that may be different as far as I understand, I also understand that you are English (UK).
Do you speak the language?, do you live in the culture... if you wanted, is there a therapist available?... lots of questions come to my mind.
Since then we have been fine. Until August 8th. His family always seem to be a trigger for him. From what I have been able to put together about his childhood it has been stressful to say the least.
I’d look into this with a therapist, look for clues from his childhood, that may explain his adult behaviors... as in how could you help him to regulate his emotions, behaviors.
Is he “passive aggressive” to you, do you feel that their could be a threat of physical violence,again, what are the laws about this in Turkey?
Again, you can’t control him, or fix him... sounds like he has a lot going on, and it may be Foo related.
Take care of yourself, be guarded... get back home, survey the surroundings, take inventory, and get on with your daily life, I wouldn't pursue... sounds like he is very dysregulated and dealing with his own stuff, which I doubt has much to do with you.
Self care, and caution...
Red5