Wife 7 months pregnant and on the edge

[Harrisps]

another day, another day spent in my car escaping conflict.

Has anyone any tips for supporting a pregnant wife with bpd traits? 

And personal coping strategies through periods such as this?

Many thanks
H

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[No-One]

Hi Harrisps:
I read some of your earlier posts & read that your wife was taking generic Zoloft.  Could part of her behaviors be due to her going off meds during the pregnancy?

Is she in therapy?  Has she learned any DBT skills?  What are some of the issues? 

What coping skills have you used in the past?  Exercise & some form of meditation can be helpful.  There is a great free app for both android & apple called Insight Timer.  There is a lot to choose from in regard to various forms of meditation.

Breathing exercises can be helpful to calm down.  The 4-7-8 breathing exercise is my favorite (inhale to the count of 4, hold for 7, then exhale for 8 & keep repeating).

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another day, another day spent in my car escaping conflict.

what happened?

[Harrisps]

Hi, thanks for the replies.

My wife has serious problems with my family. Specifically my mother.

She can’t handle our daughter being with them. Yesterday I was visiting them as a cousin was staying at their house.

As I returned home My wife could not let go of the anger and was bordering dusregualation every time we were in the same room.

I kept leaving the house as I didn’t want our daughter to be caught in the middle.

Last night got ugly. After the little one was in bed she unleashed and couldn’t stop to the point where she repeatedly called my mother until she answered then started screaming at her blaming her and calling nasty names. Eventually my dad took the phone and for the first time in 2yrs Of blame and told her what he thinks. I didn’t hear but I know it wasn’t good.

My wife was threatening suicide or hurting me. Eventually I was forced out of the house and ended up staying in a hotel.

I don’t want to close the door on this relationship as I do believe she could be stronger post baby, but I can’t see how we cannot separate in the short term as this situation is destroying everyone involved.

I think meditation right now will be helpful l, thank you!

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My wife has serious problems with my family. Specifically my mother.

She can’t handle our daughter being with them. Yesterday I was visiting them as a cousin was staying at their house.

whats the background story here?