Update

[fogle24]

Hi Folks,

Quick update on where i am with my recovery, its been well over 6 months now and im finally starting to get back to being my self again. Ive had numerous run-ins with my exbpd over this time and each time its happened  i find myself stronger.

I think this is something she has sensed as well, as her attempts to contact me have escaleted lately with the most recent barrage of calls coming from her while she was on vacation with her current supply! Honestly who the hell goes in holidays with their current partner and keep trying to contact their ex...

Although i have a lot more work to do i want to thank this forum and its members for being an amazing resource in helping me get this far.

Thanks All.

[Ziggiddy]

Hi  fogle24 
I'm not familiar with your story but am really happy to hear that you have had improvements an getting stronger. Good for you! In the end, it's all about taking personal responsibility for our own growth and even though it's a hard road it's a rewarding one.
It's interesting that you say she sensed the change = I got to a point with my pwBPD that my emotions were no longer being livewire-touched and started to find calm and peace. it simply stopped mattering. In fact it actually became amusing after a time to see the expected behaviours and tantrums. There is something incredibly liberating about coming to the point where it just doesn't affect you like it used to.
Glad to hear the good news update!
Well done you

[Mutt]

Hi fogle24,

I’m glad to hear that you’re doing well   

as her attempts to contact me have escaleted lately with the most recent barrage of calls coming from her while she was on vacation with her current supply!

She’s trying to create an exit strategy that’s why she’s trying to contact you. I’m not saying that things are bad but that she doesn’t trust that the ent situation is stable enough and it’s also a defense mechanism- if I reject the other person before I get rejected then I circumvent being rejected which is self sabotaging your r/s’s.

[Rev]

Hi F.

I'm not familiar with your story either, but I agree with M that her current situation is not stable and getting in contact with you is part of finding her stability.

So good for you for sticking to your boundaries.

And thanks for sharing. It's always a good thing to hear about the success stories.

Rev