Hi so I have been in a relationship with a man with personality disorder for about 8 years and he has been living at my home most of that time although he has his own apartment.8 years and no taking this to the next level, can i ask why? So has he been diagnosed? Do you have a T?
I have told him he needs to go to his apartmentHow does this play out? Is it often? ...Telling him this and then doing this
I am at the stage where I still want to help him with basic things like making appointments etc because he claims he has health problems and cannot drive himself. Do you see how this might be perceived as an empty ultimatum? You are what your actions say, not what your words say. Just as others are.
So to get him to leave more willingly what is the best course of action?Stop doing. At some point you will need to make an executive decision, and stick to your boundaries. For YOURSELF and others. Trying to go both ways isnt going to work, I presume. If your looking to detach, then do so. If you need to find better communication skills, then do so.
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61684.0 From everything I'm reading remaining friendly is not possible but I still question this. I do not hold any malice for him.Many on here are angry, others lonely. Why do you think you need to hold malice, in order to break the r/s? Sometimes people grow apart, PD or not...I wish you well Peace