Hi patrickg20 - Welcome!I'm the type of person who enjoying teasing sometimes, for example, if you tell me to stop doing something because you claim your embarrassed, i will do the opposite just to annoy you in a funny way. . .
I teased him about something silly - music in the car - and he acted super wild and angry which I thought it was a joke, but it wasn't and I took it personal. However I told him I was gonna leave. I called him later in the day hoping to be in a better mood to talk and he was still a little agitated.
It's important to NOT invalidate someone with BPD. Invalidation can occur by word, tone, expression or body language.
A sense of humor is great, but NOT when it is at someone's expense. Embarassing someone is generally not a good thing to do, even with people without BPD.
Why do you like to embarrass people? I suspect it's a behavior you started in your teenage years, but didn't outgrow it? Maybe it's time to modify your use of humor and channel it in a different way.
If you hope to get back with your ex, then quit teasing him. Although he might take it better on some occasions, best to assume he won't. (at least at this point in time)
And here is me... I am super needy person, I need to be in touch I need to show affection and be loved as well. This guy asks for time and barely communicates back to me. I love him so much, I wanna be able to help him, I know he struggles but I also know he needs to be loved. He doesn't have to be alone.
I struggle with being ignored or not being listened to. I need closure in a relationship and that situation of waiting or ending like that drove me insane.
Give him the space he asked for. He is going to therapy two times a week & he likely has a lot to process. He may not know what he wants right now, so don't try to pin him down for your closure.
Needy & clingy is not attractive. Take time to look at yourself and your own behaviors for improvement. Learn communication skills that can make it easier for you to interact and react to your ex partner. Should he want to reconcile with you down the road, you will be better prepared.
A good place to start is to go the "Tools Menu" within the large green band towards the top of the page. A good place to start is to read about "Validation/Don't Invalidate". Then, you might want to move forward with "Boundaries" and then browse in "Workshops".