Draining energy

[Chase7]

I decided to join this site to try to get helpful advice from others who are going through similar circumstances.  My adult sister most likely has BPD.  She is making life very stressful for my parents (they don't live together).  Whenever she is feeling upset about anything not going her way, she chooses to blame my parents for how they raised her, and she verbally attacks them and curses them.  My parents have chosen to be loving and no longer confront her for this disrespectful behavior, but it is taking a toll on them emotionally and physically.  They have a hard time sleeping and have lost their appetite, losing weight.  She may have a small problem, but it gets blown out of proportion and she will send 50+ texts about it and expect them to be helping her all day long...and they do it because they feel bad for her and because they want to prove that they love and support her (since she accuses them of being horrible people, which is untrue).

I think that my parents need to set boundaries with her, such as telling her that whenever she starts verbally assaulting them, they will hang up the phone and not answer again for 24 hours.  Does anyone have any good advice?

Thanks so much!

[Uphillbattle05]

Hi! I think setting boundaries is key but very difficult to establish, and stick with. This reminds me of my undiagnosed BPD mom treating her parented (my poor loving grandparents) like that. My grandmother was my mother figure my whole childhood and she has the audacity to blame them for every wrong mistake and direction her life has led her to.

I feel for your parents, and let me guess if you even try to confront your sister that she needs to seek help she will lash out on you too!