A thousand cuts

[Hedda H]

  First let me be clear that my “child” is 33 years old. I had her sixteen years after my first child. She has not “launched.” I am getting old and weary. Today I am a prude, yesterday I was always comparing her to someone else’s child and making her feel bad. I know about walking on eggshells. It definitely feels like that. And sometimes,like now, it feels like death by a thousand cuts. I don’t have a concrete question yet. I just need a balm.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Welcome.  We get it . PLease share more as you are able.   I gather she still lives with you ?

[pursuingJoy]

I echo Swimmy's welcome! We're glad you're here.  

I've received my share of unfair, hateful accusations and meanness from my kids (17 and 20) just this week.  My soul feels run down.

When you get a chance tell us more.   You DO need a balm. Healing is important and your healing is ultimately beneficial for all involved. It gives you something positive to focus on and work towards.

You're not the only person that's experienced this, you can survive, there is hope, and somehow, sometime, this is going to be ok. Big hug.

[Bluejay12]

We feel your thousand cuts