Does anyone have any experience or insight of Quiet BDP versus Relationship OCD

[VeronicaL]

Hello. I am finding these 2 conditions very similar, and am having a hard time seeing the difference.
Does anyone have experience or examples to make me see it clearer?
Thank you!

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[pursuingJoy]

Why do you ask? I'd never heard of Relationship OCD so I looked it up - there may be some overlap in symptoms.

Below are BPD's DSM criteria:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. (Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.)

A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.

Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.

Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex,substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). (Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.)

Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior.
Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria,irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).

Chronic feelings of emptiness.

Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).

Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.

[VeronicaL]

I also thought they seemed similar in some ways...moreso the quiet bpd

[once removed]

who has whichever condition? what sorts of difficulties are you facing? we can help.

[mitten]

When you say "quiet BPD" I assume it's the same thing as "high functioning BPD"?  Have you read Stop Walking on Eggshells?  This really helped clarify it for me. 

Real-World Types of BPD People with BPD vary a great deal in their ability to work inside or outside the home, cope with everyday problems, interact with others, and so on. This variation is one reason why BPD befuddles those trying to define it scientifically. In The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells (2008), Randi Kreger, coauthor of this book, developed a real-world, way of looking at these differences. She writes that there are three general categories of people with BPD: lower functioning, “conventional” BPs, higher functioning, “invisible” BPs, and those with characteristics of both. The challenges family members face can be very different.