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« on: May 26, 2023, 11:11:41 PM »

I haven’t cried since the breakup and the days after. I just did it again at the 10 week mark and feel a lot better. It was the loudest I have ever screamed. If my ex was standing on a cliff edge I think I would push her off.
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« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2023, 11:33:18 PM »

Sounds like a lot moved through your body. Was it grief and anger together?

How are you feeling physically now?
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« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2023, 01:13:11 AM »

How did you feel afterwards?
In my case It’s been 7 weeks and yesterday I cried all day but today I feel better and more resolved to keep moving on. I haven’t screamed maybe I should try it would help getting some of the anger and frustration out.
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« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2023, 03:21:11 AM »

Sounds like a lot moved through your body. Was it grief and anger together?

How are you feeling physically now?


A lot did move through my body. It was both grief and anger. Im not sure where I’m at in the stages of grief but it’s the first time I’ve been properly angry. Most of the 10 weeks has been pure sadness and depression. Kind of glad to feel something different for once.

I feel physically better but still quite depressed. I think I’ll do it again rather than bottling it up. I thought I was feeling my feels like my psychologist said to do but maybe I haven’t been. I’d rather be angry than depressed
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« Reply #4 on: May 27, 2023, 04:13:00 AM »

Glad you’re making progress, holding in anger can really cause lethargy, and can cause you to blame yourself excessively, and cause you to get stuck in the past, I hope you can find ways to express it. Sorrow is a natural part of grief too, but that’s more about the loss, rather than life itself sucking.

I like to journal, scream into my pillow, punch my pillow and cuss at people, or walk and verbalize it. Also I often say “I feel angry that xyz, when I do this, wish I had a punching bag and a scream room, ha. Car sounds like a good place to let it out.
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« Reply #5 on: May 28, 2023, 10:36:16 PM »

A lot did move through my body. It was both grief and anger. Im not sure where I’m at in the stages of grief but it’s the first time I’ve been properly angry. Most of the 10 weeks has been pure sadness and depression. Kind of glad to feel something different for once.

I feel physically better but still quite depressed. I think I’ll do it again rather than bottling it up. I thought I was feeling my feels like my psychologist said to do but maybe I haven’t been. I’d rather be angry than depressed

Just let it flow. Do not try to bottle it up. You are going through the stages of grief and the process of it. Just let it happen. It is a process but you are going to be alright and you are going to get through this.

Cheers and Best Wishes!

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