My ex pwBPD scrapped me six weeks ago. There were no blow ups, he never loved bombed or cut me down as I read happens. It was a few months of good humoured fun... . Then he ghosted. I asked for an explanation as to why but he only sent a few cryptic texts then vaporised.
A few months and then poof? It sounds like "Match.com" at its finest. Dating in 2017 is a often a myriad of parallel connections tracking to different timelines. People have to put a lot of irons in the fire and they don't heat up in any predictable pattern. When someone more exciting comes along, poof, our new found interest is gone. This is really common in the first months of going out. It is the downside to the upside of having so many options online.
Or, he had broken up with a girlfriend and they got back.
I don't know, obviously, but what you describe is, unfortunately, often a function of these things or some variable of these things.
What's been tough, he hasn't left me in peace for a week since. He's followed me all over the internet, broken into my email box and changed the password more than once. We met on a romance site and three times this month he somehow accessed my account, deleted emails from men with their phone numbers and changed my profile photos around. Each time I've called the help center and they restored my profile.
This is very personal type of "crime" and not at all typical of what one would expect after a light hearted couple of months and then a "ghosting". This is more the behavior of a spurned lover who either had your passwords or knew you so well that they could guess them. Sophisticated websites Match.com (and bpdfamily) use cryptographic hash functions published by the National Institute of Standards and Technology (NIST) which is a U.S. Federal Information Processing Standard (FIPS) for banks, etc. Hackers of these security systems are usually state sponsored.
Can you elaborate on this? What happened and how do you think it happened? Breaking into accounts that you changed the password on is extraordinary.can anyone provide insight as to why, when it was he who cut and run, he won't leave me be so I can get on with things? Does he have an end game, or is he just tapping off his own pain, or is it impossible to say? This still leaves me scratching my head.
I've been reading member cases for years... .this is doesn't seem right to me either. I'd be more inclined to think that this is behavior reserved for someone who spurned or someone you humiliated or someone who is "messing with you" in retaliation... .which you say in not the case. Is there anyone else possibly in this? Did he have a girlfriend that might be wanting to "pay you back" for what he might have said about you?