saying goodbye to the BPDfamily for now

[rzr14]

I have been nc with my ex for over a month now, and I have come to the conclusion with the help of my t and this site that it is time to let go of her and the group here. I am very thankful to find this site to help me better understand my past r/s. And everyone's input and their stories, has it help me more then I can put into words. I wish I new more about pd years ago and this site. Would have saved me from all that I have gone through over the years. I have learned it wasn't all my ex's fault, that my codependency traits had a big part in it. That I'm starting to work on them so I can have a healthy r/s with people and feel better about myself. I can't say that for my ex she will keep going down the road to destruction to she hits bottom. I hope she does and gets herself help but that's not for me to worry about. With the help of my t I have wrote one letter to myself if she came back into my life of what I would have to say to her. I will write another one later to myself if I never see her again. I still have my ups and downs but I am making head way, I am on a dating site things have been good so far no red flags yet.

This past month I opened a fortune cookie it spoke to me about my situation. It reads ':)o not seek so much to find the answer as much as to understand the question better" I will leave it up to everyone to interpret it in there own way. I feel I will be back to learn some more and to post if something comes up. Thank you all again for your help.

[VitaminC]

I am very thankful to find this site to help me better understand my past r/s. And everyone's input and their stories, has it help me more then I can put into words. I wish I new more about pd years ago and this site.

You are good to acknowledge, rzr14.

I have learned it wasn't all my ex's fault, that my codependency traits had a big part in it. That I'm starting to work on them so I can have a healthy r/s with people and feel better about myself.

Great and useful realisations. Keep it up!

With the help of my t I have wrote one letter to myself if she came back into my life of what I would have to say to her. I will write another one later to myself if I never see her again.

This is a good idea. I might do the same, although I feel pretty much entirely over it. But it's an acknowledgement of how far we've come, a record for ourselves of our process.

This past month I opened a fortune cookie it spoke to me about my situation. It reads ':)o not seek so much to find the answer as much as to understand the question better" I will leave it up to everyone to interpret it in there own way. I feel I will be back to learn some more and to post if something comes up. Thank you all again for your help.

Love it!  Come back anytime, rzr14. Best to you.