Hi
InsideOutside,
It can be quite unsettling when we see the potential of life repeating itself, the unhealthy part of life that we don't want to pass on to anyone ever. Is that perhaps how you are feeling?
I remember pretty clearly a moment in time when I had to ask myself a similar question with regards to my husband of 35 years: what am I doing that is contributing to the repeated pattern of behavior I'm seeing? It began a time of deep reflection and seeking in my life. This doesn't necessarily mean that you are the one causing the issue, and I don't mean to imply that at all. For me it did mean that I wanted to look at what was going on and see if there were things maybe I could change to make my life healthier. I couldn't change what DH was doing, no matter how much I tried to influence his choices (aka exercising a certain amount of control). I had to take several steps back and work on me.
Do you have any observations as to what you think is going on?
Wools