dealing with loss and borderline brother

[sadsister16]

Hi there:

This is my first post I am dealing with a lot my mother passed away recently and now my father is left to deal with my BPD brother who is 36 still living at home and with constant drama in the house. Recently he pawned all of my deceased mothers jewelry that I was supposed to inherit along with the pieces that were sentimental to my dad and my dad just keeps letting him get away with everything! my dads dad passed away last week and the day he flew back my brother was calling him nonstop about drama at the house. I need support to personally deal with what is going on in that home. My mother locked herself in her room for 3 years before she had a heart attack after my brother yelled at her while she was in the hospital and died in there. I am so scared that the same thing will happen to my dad as my brother won't get help and my dad won't make him get help or kick him out. Additionally my brother is an addict and is living in my dads house with his addict girlfriend who also has BPD. Please help.

[Woolspinner2000]

Hi Sadsister16   Welcome to our online family.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom and now your grandpa too.   This must be a very hard time for you and your dad. What kinds of feelings are you experiencing right now? You mention that you are afraid. Being around someone with BPD often leads to fear. They can be difficult at best and next to impossible at worst to deal with. My uBPDm was so often that way, and they leave a trail of hurt to those of us around them.

Have you been able to encourage your dad through this time or does he seem overwhelmed too? There are many members online who have situations similar to yours. I'm sure you will receive kindness and support from them too. How did you learn about BPD?

Keep in touch with us! We are here for you! 


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