Hi daughterandmom, welcome to the Personal Inventory board!
Anyways my question is this. My therapist keeps asking me how I feel when I am relating things. I don't know. The only feeling I can identify is anxiety. He says I don't feel my own feelings, but I take on those of others.
I don't really know what this means or what to do about it.
I have written recently about children who learned to stay "tuned in" to a parent's feelings, to anticipate their reactions in order to avoid or minimize abuse. This is a possible reason why someone might "take on others' feelings".
Also, your mother's personality disorder likely impacted her ability to help you learn emotional self-awareness and regulation. Healthy parents model this for their children, based on what they learned from their own parents (it can be learned in adulthood through therapy, and/or techniques like Focusing, Nonviolent Communication, and mindfulness approaches that work directly with emotions)
"Your own feelings" are your body's response to the environment, including interactions with other people. I don't know what type of therapy your therapist does, or how long you've been going, but is there any kind of work with becoming aware of emotions and sensations in the body?