Blame game?

[Sean123]

I always feel like I getting blamed for everything. I'm absolutely certain I am to blame sometimes, I get frustrated and say things I don't mean sometimes but somehow she always twist it so it appears its my fault, always. Then as soon as I try to make it up to her, she gives me the cold shoulder for hours. Completely resistant to affection.

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[formflier]

I'm glad you made your first post.  You have found a group of people that "get it".

How long have you been reading and hanging around before you made your first post?

I always feel like I getting blamed for everything. I'm absolutely certain I am to blame sometimes, I get frustrated and say things I don't mean sometimes but somehow she always twist it so it appears its my fault, always. Then as soon as I try to make it up to her, she gives me the cold shoulder for hours. Completely resistant to affection.

Can you share a recent example of "getting blamed" for something?

Can you follow that up with examples of how you "tried to make it up to her".

I would encourage you to read the article below.  I'm curious to hear your thoughts after you read it.

What does it take to be in a relationship with a person with BPD

Best,

FF