She's due in two and a half months, and is withholding everything from me

[Clz]

Shes due in two and a half months with only seeing her a handful of times since march. Shes withholding everything from me including the gender that i found out through a family member of hers. She was telling my only contact with her (my sister) that she doesnt know what the gender is.


im being looked down on as an awful person when in reality i do feel shes using this pregnancy as a sympathy act to keep me down at the same time.

My only intention is to be there for my daughter despite everything going against me...recently i was given a new approach in if she doesnt reach out than respect that and dont try to get involved. Just ask for updates every six months through herfamily member that im talking to...

its never once crossed my mind not to be there for my daughter so i was wondering if theres anyone out there who was faced with this situation and what did you end up doing because this is ultimately about the health of everyone involved and i care way too much to have any pain brought to me, her and ultimately, my daughter.

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[Radcliff]

What kind of parenting role do you want to have?  How much time with the child?

RC

[Clz]

I want to have an impact on my daughters life...if the mother doesnt want me around though its.not.going to have a good impact on the child growing up me being in the picture...aswell as my own mental health to take into consideration.

[Radcliff]

Your child needs you.  That's not something for the mother to decide.  Sure, she can make it more difficult.  But showing that you're there for your child and learning the tools to more effectively cope with the child's mother with less harm to you will have an immense impact on your child's life.  You can have this impact with a wide range of parenting time, from a little to a lot.  The important thing is to be consistently there as a part of your child's life.  They need to be able to rely on that.

Do you have a family lawyer who can help you protect your rights as a father?

RC