I pulled my 16 year old daughter out of school at Christmas break. She had been refusing to go and would spend days in bed just not getting up. I was constantly on the phone with her guidance counselor. After break she told me that she would rather die than go back. She had alienated all her friends and was very depressed and miserable. I am currently "homeschooling" her in title. However, she attends classes at our local community college as a dually enrolled student. She is taking 3 classes. She started with 5 but it was too much for her to handle - mentally, not academically. Academically she is quite bright, gifted even.
I also homeschool my other children (I have 5 others at home but only 3 of them are school aged - the other two are younger) as well. It has been tough. I cannot personally homeschool my 16 year old because she would not accept me as a teacher. It does seem to work with me in a facilitator role. I drive her to and from classes and I sign off on her classes and do the reporting to the school district.
Having her home all day can be challenging. It does impact my ability to homeschool my other girls. She is gone a good part of 2 days each week with her college classes, I am gone all day with my younger girls at a co-op another day, so there are only 2 weeks days that she is home all day. Usually she just stays in bed or in her room. I am trying to help her find a barn to volunteer at during those days. She really enjoys working with horses and I think it would be great for her to get some fresh air, exercise, and do some manual labor.
I am not sure how it would work if she had not wanted to leave school. My daughter is pretty oppositional and whatever *I* want or ask of her, she almost seems compelled to do the opposite. I have to be extremely mindful of the way I present things to her if I want her to cooperate or I need to make deals. For example, we recently got her learner's permit and she is somewhat motivated by this. If she wants to drive, have us pay for her driving lessons, etc... .she needs to comply with some rules.
I am really new to this group/message board and to BPD in general but I am happy to chat about homeschooling or anything else I can help with.