So I’m quite concerned about my ex (stbxh). I believe he has bpd, for 10 years he was mainly overweight but towards the end of our relationship he started working out excessively and is currently very thin. It’s really sad to see. He looks like a totally different person.
So here I go down the rabbit hole again trying to figure this out and here’s what I came up with:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8470847/I made his doctor aware of his strenuous exercise regimen and the fact that his frame is now bent- he is tall and was a good looking man. No response from his doctor. Patient confidentiality.
I know we both threw each other under the bus during our relentless arguments but I never attacked his appearance. I supported him where I could and begged him to seek therapy. Even in the midst of our vile arguments I made him aware that he was not a bad person.
I wonder if I did anything to cause this. Yes I abandoned him and called the police on him several times when he went out of line- threatening behaviour.
He has no support and I think he’s too ashamed to go back to his parents. Or so I think.
I remember he said to me that all he had to do was call them and say he was sorry and they would accept him back.
His mum too is someone I believe has bpd- or covert NPD. She too was aggressively thin and would drink only coffee at meal times.
At our supervised visit he only drank coffee too and told the children he didn’t want more carbs.
He worked hard to keep himself under control, although I noticed he was restless initially but later settled down to spend time with his children.
He thanked me for allowing the visit.
I had an idea to encourage him to see his doctor- thought about saying the children were worried about him- this is twisting the truth as the children mentioned he cried when it was time to leave. He had 3 hours with them undisturbed.
I do apologise for the rant. My head does go into a spin about what to do about this. I guess I’m worried about his weight because of my sons. I don’t want them to see this as good example.