My wife has just been diagnosed with BPD after multiple breakdowns and depressive episodes. All my fault of course... .NOT
She still blames me for every blowup--- I am a "highly sensitive person" and am willing to discuss anything... .how can it be my fault that she blows up and can't continue?
Having her diagnosed as BPD is the first step. The second step, for both of you is to start to learn about it. As you learn, things will suddenly become clear as glass. This is what happened when I started reading books on the subject. I had many times when I was reading and I broke down into tears because the book was describing exactly what was happening with my life with my gf. It also described my feelings to the tee. Once you start learning, that realization that it's not your fault should set in. I'm an emotional person too and anytime a fight will happen, it still hurts the heart like anything, but with that new found knowledge, it just might hurt a little less cause you have understanding. So, be strong, and do the research. This place is a great place to get advice, get support from other nonBPDs, and to just discuss your feelings or status with your relationship. I know I'm thankful for finding this family.
