Powerful moments in therapy-all invited

[nomadicsoul]

I thought maybe posting some of those lightening bolt moments in therapy I/some of us have had, might be very helpful for those who can't afford it or can't pick up the phone yet.

Here's a few I've had... .

"I give you permission to feel... . "

"You can't commit to the relationship, because you don't feel safe."

"You have to learn to sooth yourself in healthy ways."

"Maybe your stuck between pride and self-hate?"

Please share,

NS

[arjay]

... . "I hear you and understand the challenges you have had with her and how tough it has been, but I must ask you: what were YOU thinking?" ... .

[Aussie JJ]

This one got me angry at myself, instigated me lookign at me... .

"I can hear you, I understand the conflicting emotions you have, I must ask, are you going to be happy with a partner with no empathy, no direction in life, no respect for your direction in life and no respect for herself?"  *insert dramatic pause*  "I feel that is what your trying to convince me of, that having a partner like that will bring you happiness, is this true?"

[Olinda]

"How much have you been overfunctioning in this relationship?"

"What about her behaviors remind you of yourself and qualities you don't like about yourself?"

[Ihope2]

"You have been absorbing everyone else's projections onto yourself like a blank screen.

[bb12]

you are not so much trying to control them necessarily, but more the levels of anxiety they create in you with their neglect and unwillingness to communicate

[Turkish]

"I sense that a lot of your anger comes from expecting her to be someone she is not. Can you accept that she is who she is?" 

"Have you ever thought that maybe you two just weren't a good match?"

"Next time, choose someone your own age." (he picked up on the Father-daughter dynamic. He followed up with finding someone my own "level" in other ways as well)

"Not everything needs to be pathologized!" (talking about me playing Devil's Advocate asking him to dX me with something since uBPDx sent me to therapy to get fixed)

"You seem to have a healthy disrespect for therapy. I'll tell you a little secret: so do I." (not sure if he was patronizing me, it didn't seem like it)

"Psychology is the study of human behavior. As such, you often have to take a lot of it with a grain of salt." (I think he was trying to get me to step back and stop over-analyzing everything)

"I'm glad you're finally showing anger, I was wondering when that was going to happen. you have a right to be angry!"

[corraline]

 "this is the most painful event of my whole life"


"this may not be "

something to that effect.  i believe she was encouraging me to consider my childhood pain.

the first cut is the deepest.

[Turkish]

"this is the most painful event of my whole life"


"this may not be "

something to that effect.  i believe she was encouraging me to consider my childhood pain.

the first cut is the deepest.

That is an interesting point, corraline. One that I struggled with for a few months, and still do. Might be a good topic for a new thread?