Silent treatment

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

My ex would slowly start withdrawing from me.  I could see his eyes get dull.  Over a few weeks he would quit talking or looking at me.  This could last for years.  He was able to work.  He saw friends less.  Did anyone else experience this?  I would beg him to talk to me but nothing.  Eventually he would come out of it and act as if all was fine

[Zoa]

My ex would slowly start withdrawing from me.  I could see his eyes get dull.  Over a few weeks he would quit talking or looking at me.  This could last for years.  He was able to work.  He saw friends less.  Did anyone else experience this?  I would beg him to talk to me but nothing.  Eventually he would come out of it and act as if all was fine

[Calli]

Mine was just like that.  It broke my heart. Every time it would happen - the shutting down - almost dissolving. His eyes would dissociate too.   It was why I couldn’t take it anymore.  He did it to everyone who loved him.  His family, friends, ex-partners.  I could never figure out what triggered it in him.  Sometimes I wanted desperately to figure it out so I could make sure if it was something I did I could stop it from happening.  It killed me inside.  And he’d come back, like nothing happened (for a while).  But then over time, the recycling would get less and less - breadcrumbs.  Made me feel worthless and used.  So gross.

I reached my breaking point and just couldn’t do it anymore.  Some days I still reel from it all.  Still heartbroken and I can feel it sometimes.

I get it.  Believe me I do.  Thanks for sharing about it here. 

[Zoa]

Thanks so much.  Helps to know it wasn’t us.