I follow a spiritual path with the main principles being love, tolerance, forgiveness and acceptance but I still find it impossible to align my head and heart with not taking things personally.
Do any other folk struggle with not taking things personally relating to our exBPD partners?
We're human beings and the things that have been said and done are wrong regardless of the deseased reasoning behind them. I took it personally and I will again if someone else inflicts abuse on me. No one is exempt from responsibility and I will not tolerate or forgive. You say it very well when you say it's ultimately about ones own protection. Add dignity and future happiness to that. The reason we're all here is because it took us too long to understand and accept the situation and walk away from it. Or am I wrong?