Just remembered this & its a peach!
About two years into our three year expedition into crazy land... . (Before I knew anything of BPD).
UBPDex & I sat down to discuss our volatile relationship & how to find some resolve. This after her raging about something & silent treating me for a few days. Now she wanted to sit and talk like mature adults about our problems. As we sat she seemed perfectly lucid, calm, self aware & mindful of the moment.
Me: "we are going to need professional help, a therapist, a good one! One that can help us build trust & teach us coping tools to use. What do you think?"
Bpdex: "yes we do need to build trust back you're right Moonie. I've got a better idea how we can do it!"
Me: "great what is it?"
Bpdex: "Lets get some pigs!"
For a moment I honestly thought I was hallucinating!
Whenever I doubt or wonder if she truly is disordered, I need to remember that profound nugget of trust building wisdom she shared with me that night!